how would you feel if i asked you to wait to have sex with me? has that ever happened to you before?
when i saw what cheating did to a girl; it changed my life. and i vowed never to let myself get into those same situations again. and so i came up with a certain way i chose to go about relationships from now on. but more so the moving on process. but even more so about sex. [lol] first off, i am no longer having sex outside of a relationship. it's going to be extremely tough but it's so much safer. it allows time for std testing to take place. [if you dont have anything you, shouldnt be offended.] and then, when relationship ends, i will not have sex for the remainder of that year. [even if i get a new girlfriend within that year] sounds crazy right? but i like the way it works out. i see it as my own twist on celibacy. [im assuming that's allowed. if not...idgaf] if a girl respected that and waited, there would be such a bond built by the time it went down. and it allows me time to successfully move on from a past relationship before entering a new one. [major area of f*ck ups in the past] and get tested. [are you scared?] then once the New Year rolls around, the 1st kiss of the year means so much more AND there could be New Year's Day sex! [super plus!] and just think. starting off the year with a fresh relationship! if enough time has passed and allowed us to build a good foundation; the possibilities are endless. now some might ask "what if that's not enough time for me to move on?" EX: a relationship that lasted a long while, years maybe, and it ends in NOV/DEC. well if i don't truly feel i am ready to get in a relationship again, i won't. and i'm not going to lie to myself. what good would that do? and in the meantime when im not in a relationship, not having sex, not building a foundation for a new relationship; ima keep on living loving learning and laughing.
when i saw what cheating did to a girl; it changed my life. and i vowed never to let myself get into those same situations again. and so i came up with a certain way i chose to go about relationships from now on. but more so the moving on process. but even more so about sex. [lol] first off, i am no longer having sex outside of a relationship. it's going to be extremely tough but it's so much safer. it allows time for std testing to take place. [if you dont have anything you, shouldnt be offended.] and then, when relationship ends, i will not have sex for the remainder of that year. [even if i get a new girlfriend within that year] sounds crazy right? but i like the way it works out. i see it as my own twist on celibacy. [im assuming that's allowed. if not...idgaf] if a girl respected that and waited, there would be such a bond built by the time it went down. and it allows me time to successfully move on from a past relationship before entering a new one. [major area of f*ck ups in the past] and get tested. [are you scared?] then once the New Year rolls around, the 1st kiss of the year means so much more AND there could be New Year's Day sex! [super plus!] and just think. starting off the year with a fresh relationship! if enough time has passed and allowed us to build a good foundation; the possibilities are endless. now some might ask "what if that's not enough time for me to move on?" EX: a relationship that lasted a long while, years maybe, and it ends in NOV/DEC. well if i don't truly feel i am ready to get in a relationship again, i won't. and i'm not going to lie to myself. what good would that do? and in the meantime when im not in a relationship, not having sex, not building a foundation for a new relationship; ima keep on living loving learning and laughing.
i love this. i've always liked the idea of building a strong foundation to hold a relationship down before getting down to sex, cuz lets be real here...sex can sometimes complicate things.
ReplyDeletethis is an "eccentric" but then again, you are an eccentric soul, and that works ;)